So, last night after I posted a few comics about misconceptions about sexual orientation people seem to have/experience, I got about 50 messages in my inbox. At least. I’m not kidding!
I want to get to them all, but I can’t promise I will.
Just know this - whatever age you are, you don’t have to put a label on what you are or what you like. If you want to, that’s okay! It’s perfectly normal to want to identify with a group. I’m just saying it isn’t necessary. You don’t have to be bisexual or gay or straight or asexual or any of a thousand other identifiers. You can just be you. When it comes down to it, it’s only really important to the people you’re choosing to share it with. Who that is, well - that’s up to you.
You don’t have to come out if you’re not ready. You don’t have to tell your parents if you’re afraid of their reactions. It’s your business. You don’t have to decide your sexuality and write it down in permanent marker if you’re 16, or 30, or 78! Just be you, do what you like with people you trust who treat you with respect, and try not to hurt anyone in the process. Don’t freak out if you become attracted to someone you’re not ‘supposed to’ because of how you identify. It’s okay! Really. You can identify as a lesbian for years and then become attracted to a man, and that’s not wrong. Sexuality is fluid and sometimes unpredictable! Don’t beat yourself up over it. If someone asks you ‘what’ you are, it’s your choice whether or not to tell them. It’s perfectly legitimate to say you’re not sure, or unwilling to share that part of yourself.
Be nice to others, but for goodness’ sake, be kind to yourself.
Haha, I was all nodding my head and saying “yes, yes” and then I was like “Ooh, who is she linking to as an example, I love finding more people who have experienced this” and it was a link to me /:)
Thank you for the shout out, Kate, and rock the fuck on all you lovers who just wanna love outside of the label box.